The history has recorded to this woman her position of pride and honor and made her be in the rank of the distinguished women, revealing the depth of her loyalty, her knowledge of the truth and her high morals in dealing with her Imam and with her huband Zuhair Ibn Al-Qayn. This woman is Dilham daughter of Amru Al-Kufiyah.
This woman has directed her husband to the straight path, as he was not from the followers of Ahl Al-Bayt (peace be upon them), but while travelling he has met Imam Al-Hussayn (peace be upon him) on their way to Kufa. After awhile, the messenger of Al-Hussayn (peace be upon him) was at the door of the tent of Zuhayr saying: Aba Abdillah has sent me to you to ask you to come to him. There was a terrible silence in Zuhayr's place, as they tried their best to not meet Al-Hussayni (peace be upon him) on the journey, but now he has sent his mesenger calling them.
At this moment, Dilham, the wise and faithful women, has broken the silence, turned to her husband and sparked her words like a volcano that snarls the hearts, saying: O Zuhayr! The son of the Messenger of Allah sent to you and you do not go to him? Subhan Allah! If only you go and hear his words.. and she went.
Zuhayr then could only decide to go to Aba Abdillah (peace be upon him) and listen to him. Suddenly Zuhayr found himself in front of Al-Hussayn (peace be upon him), and once he heard the words of Al-Hussayn (peace be upon him), Zuhayr changed his position and took a firm decision and resolved to join the caravan of the apple of the eyes of the Prophet (Allah's prayers be upon him and upon his holy Household).
He returned jubilant to his family, and decided to divorce his wife so she can join her family, not because he hated her but because of his love for her, so he can dedicate himself for martyrdom. He announced her his brave decision of joining up the caravan of the truth.
His wife then stood up crying but firmly to bid him farewell, telling him: Allah has chosen the best for you... I ask you to remember me in the day of resurrection in front of the grandfather of Al-Hussayn (peace be upon him).
Thus, Zuhayr has left the pleasures of this world to tell to Al-Hussayn (peace be upon him): I swear by God, if this world was eternal for us, I would chose leaving it for your sake.
Zuhayr has then divorced his wife, who has divorced all sweetness and joys of this world, and acquiesced to the decision of her husband to not make him hesitate to go for the martyrdom.
And so, This woman has two roles: the first was the sacrifice, support and redemption and the second is the direct influence on her husband's belief and ideas, which is rare to find in other women.